6 thoughts on “What was your ‘aha’ moment?

  1. Hi Miisa and Jennifer, what a nice idea :)! I don’t know if I can share any exact ‘aha’ moment, rather a situation where I was pushed by life and here I am, living my dream. In a difficult life situation, but still.

    Sometimes life gives a bit too much to handle – our son got seriously ill a few years ago with major neurological symptoms right after our 3rd child was born, and the months afterwards were like walking in a cloud. You really didn’t know what to hold on to – the hazzle of 3 children, living abroad in a country where you didn’t feel comfortable with the language. Tired, scared, exhausted…Getting the diagnosis and understanding it is not life-threatening took almost 1,5 years.

    Already before this, for years our family had been living around the world because of my husband’s job and we had been in some difficult situations. This led to major stress, and my relatively young husband was left with some health issues. Surprised to be alive and kicking, he is still continuing in the corporate world, but in slightly less demanding position (at least according to him :)).

    So there I am – with a husband, who barely could walk 100 ft and was insisting to continue working normally to support his family, a son who needed my presence 24/7, a baby boy and a daughter. Living abroad the luxury life of an expat wife that everyone is just dreaming of…

    And still had an urge to do something of my OWN. Something that would make me ME, rather than a mother of those and wife of that. Something that would get my mind out of the every day issues we were having. Something that would give me those little, important feelings of success every now and then, and keep my spirits up.

    After a lot of thinking, we decided: I will start my own little business, a long-time dream, in the web. That should give me the necessary flexibility with the working hours, even though it would require a lot. And it did…more than I ever imagined. Having had a rather long career already in the corporate world, there were still so many things I really didn’t know anything about. But you know what? I would never give it up now that I’ve built it up. It has been, and still is, demanding, and it is time-consuming, and at times I just want to quit. But I also love every minute of it. Developing my business energizes me. It makes me a better mother. And a better person.

    Go and chase your dream!

    • Thank you for sharing such a personal story! I think your desire to want to create something for yourself, something about yourself, and not be defined only as a wife and a mother resonates with a lot of women. And as you said, at the end of the day, when you are driven by your purpose and you get to express yourself every day through your own business you will end up being a better mother and a wife.

  2. I’m not sure if I had an aha moment. My passion was born from my lowest moment. My husband of 16 years suddenly abandoned me with a text message. I soon discovered he had stolen all of the marital funds, leaving me with horrific debt, and had committed felony bigamy. I turned to the internet for support in those ealry months and I was disappointed in the lack of frank discussion about tsunami-type divorces and marital fraud, especially from people who were offering advice on how to recover from such a blow. I made a vow to myself that I would find a way to use my experience to help others and that I never wanted anyone else to feel as alone as I did in those days.

    It’s been almost 4 years now. I’ve started a wellness coaching business and become a writer (Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen and a book about my story). I’ve learned how to market and promote along with all of the other details of small business. I have had the most amazing people help along the way and I try to help others find there own dreams when I can. I’m still in the early stages of all of this (my primary employment is as a teacher, so I have to do most of my work during school breaks) but I look forward to the day when I can embrace my passions 24/7.

    • Wow! Thank you for sharing your story. I think most of us face difficult and sometimes terrible situations in life sometimes. What makes the difference in the end is how we deal with those blows. You have turned your struggles into your strengths and build something out of your experiences. Many become martyrs and carry their ‘I’ve been treated so badly’ as badges with pride for the rest of their lives and wonder why they are not moving forward! Please post a link to your book and your writing on DrivenWoman. These are the stories that will help others! Miisaxx

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